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I’m friends with my ex, Sam (20M). We ended on awkward but good terms but after having a heart to heart with him and then putting space between us for a few months- we came back as healthy friends especially since we understood each other instantly (good, bad, and ugly).

Though there is 2 things that bothers me about him:

1) He still makes a ton of empty promises still (It was a big issue in our relationship despite me reminding him that I already saw him for who he was but I still wanted to trust his words but if he didn’t mean it- he shouldn’t say it). It hurts especially when I talk about my big upcoming events like getting a new vehicle, my birthday, or honestly in general hanging out with me- He’d say it’s super important but never show up for that value. When my birthday came, he forgot it. He’s said multiple times that he has no time for hangouts or anything yet will keep saying I should wait on purchasing things cause he’ll teach me (months will go by). He’ll literally be minutes from me, tell me, and when I ask if he just wants to stop by for a sec- he avoids me but says he misses hanging out. I’m sick of it. I’m sick of being excited and then I’m disappointed- I’m really trying to ignore him but it is irritating me so much. Because I have so much respect for him and I thought he did for me as well but his words are starting to lose my trust.

And 2. He still wears his ring of our matching ring set. I overthink everything when I see it even though it’s probably a fidget thing(?) but he hates rings as much as he hates expectations. We broke up September and realistically, I have processed our previous relationship and hold no ill will since rn we’re incompatible due to current goals (I want to solo travel). But anyways, our rings was the first thing he gave when we first got together- what do you even say when people ask? It makes me sad because my heart aches and I kept mine as well (I love rings).

I just don’t know how to approach/express this.